This Is The Skill You Want To Master First

by Steve Bauer on August 30, 2010

In my experience as a teacher of NLP, I have noticed a pattern.

Most new students of Neurolinguistic Programming get incredibly excited about the change techniques that have made NLP famous, like the fast phobia cure, change history pattern, belief change, new behavior generator and others.

Some students of salesmanship also get excited about the possibilities to learn how to persuade and influence better.

What they forget about is the fundamental skill.

Without this skill, it’s virtually impossible to become proficient at any other skill in NLP.

With it, you’ll magnify the power and impact of everything else you learn tenfold.
And yet, it’s the most overlooked skill of all.

Let me share something with you…

Most of the time, when my NLP students want to develop a new skillset, they immediately start searching for the “doing” part of the skillset.

The words to say.

The intonation to use.

The posture to adopt…

And it’s only natural to do so. After all, the “doing” seems to be what produces the results.

And it does.

But to give tonus to the “doing”, they must start somewhere else.

And that’s where you need to start as well.

This starting point will make you better than 90% of the NLP students I’ve encountered over the past 10 years.

Download this free guide.

Read it.

Do the exercises.

Commit to practice the skill.

You’re going to get good fast, I promise you.

Just type your email in the box below and I’ll send it to you right away.

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