Comments on: More On Mastering Emotions

By: Steve Bauer

Steve Bauer — Fri, 09 Sep 2011 15:23:07 +0000

Shah,

Big question. I wish I could answer it but its scope is too broad.

The Meta-Model of language in therapy consists of several language patterns and verbal challenges. You learn how to detect the patterns and apply the challenges to recover “hidden” or “unconscious” portions of the client’s mental models or maps.

I suggest you first read through Wikipedia’s article on the Meta-Model. It will help you understand those language patterns.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Meta-model_(NLP)

By: shah

shah — Fri, 02 Sep 2011 11:09:18 +0000

hi, steve,

how to use meta models in a client’s intervention.
could you come with simple example

thanks

shah

By: Colin

Colin — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 02:05:06 +0000

Great stuff, Steve (commenting on “should”).

We can turn the viewer 180 with the word “must.” I must do, say, be……

Mike, enjoyed your insight. Keep it coming guys,

Colin

By: Mike Robinson

Mike Robinson — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 21:14:04 +0000

Interesting stuff about emotions as a message to be “read, interpreted and consciously acted upon”. I will use that distinction. Thanks!

So glad to see you writing about the dreaded “should” word Steve. It is also almost completely ineffective when telling others what the should or should not do. It sets up a defensive reaction. Much better to say,”If I was in your situation I would….” Then they have a choice!

There is a fun saying that I use, “Don’t should all over me!” People get it then.

Mike