Here is my working cornerstone list of NLP models and techniques.
Eventually, all of these will be linked to descriptive pages on this site and the rest of the internet.
And now, without further due…
How You Can Read People’s Minds (But Not In The Way You Think)
November 25, 2011 By Leave a Comment
What Are Accessing Cues?
When people are thinking, they demonstrate light and subtle behaviors that help them engage the appropriate sensory representational system. For example, moving their eyes, changing their vocal intonation, physical position, breathing and gestures.
Why is that useful to you (and any other NLP-trained person)?
These behaviors actually help you track which representational system someone is using to express themselves or to respond to you or to a situation. While they don’t necessarily reveal “what” the person is thinking, they will certainly help you figure out “how” the person is thinking about it.
Stop for a second a consider any interaction you may have had with people. Can you remember anyone ever:
- being almost out of breath;
- making noises or onomatopeic sounds;
- making faces;
- using particular gestures like raising their hands and moving them around;
- scratching themselves;
In and of themselves, these behaviors might have no meaning whatsoever. But by calibrating, you can uncover what mental processes are associated with any or all of them for a particular individual.
These physiological changes associated to mental processes, over time, become automated, predictable patterns, outside of conscious awareness. While Richard Bandler and John Grinder uncovered these patterns during the 1970′s, the AQAL model Ken Wilber presented in his masterpiece “Sex, Ecology, Spirituality” clearly accounts for the direct and simultaneous correlation between physical and mental processes.
Ken Wilber's AQAL Model
As you practice NLP, you will learn to decode and interpret these automatic behaviors by using calibration. This will allow you to influence others’ thought patterns. What follows is a list of patterns coded in NLP that you can use as a learning structure:
1. Kinesthetic mode accessing cues: Head and eyes down, gestures in direction of the body, breathing down in the abdomen, slower speech tempo, deeper voice.
2. Auditory mode accessing cues: Head and eyes leaning to the sides, gestures at ear level, diaphragmatic breathing, speech tempo alternating between faster and slower, varied intonation.
3. Visual mode accessing cues: Head and eyes up, gestures above the shoulders or upward, breathing up in the lungs, eyes semi-closed, high-pitched voice and higher-speeed speech tempo.
Now, let’s practice accessing cues
Get together with a practice buddy and follow these instructions. Then, ask your buddy to tell you what happened at each step.
- Think of a fun experience you had.
- First, focus on the physical feelings associated to that experience.
- Now, let go of the feelings.
- Second, focus on the images associated to that experience.
- Now, let go of the images.
- Third, focus on the sounds associated to that experience.
- Now, let go of the sounds.
Ask your buddy to take note of what happens to your gestures, posture, breathing, facial expression and tone of voice.
Then, switch roles! Your partner goes through the instructions and you observe and report.
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