Tom from NLP Times published a really cool post a couple of months ago on self-mastery and change.
But before you do, just check out the gist of it. Tom simply points out that, in order to effect change, you must:
1. Become aware that some pattern isn’t serving you.
2. Take complete responsibility for the pattern and changing it.
3. Have a clear outcome in mind as to what you want.
4. Get leverage on yourself to make sure that change is a must (taken from Tony Robbins).
Once and only once all these criteria are met can you apply NLP techniques to interrupt patterns and condition new ones.
But don’t take my word for it. Go check it out.
I figured it out.
Here is the how:
1) Be open, honest, and mindful of what exactly you are feeling, what is causing it, and why it sucks. (Akin to being ‘aware’ of yourself, taking the time to ‘relax’, in order to ‘observe yourself, feelings, actions, behaviors’.)
2) It’s a part of you, make it into a third party.
3) Manifest evidence to the claim that this ‘thirty party’ enemy is a threat to XYZ (XYZ=your life goal, dreams, aspiration, continuity of urself, and attainment of happiness)
4) After you have gotten angry at it and are motivated to ‘change it’, you can apply NLP techniques to DESTROY THEM.
That is how I usually do it… similar to what Tom said, but yeah…